Answering the question “How are you feeling?”

What do you say when someone asks that loaded question  “how are you feeling”?

Do you:

a. Tell them the exact truth, that you feel like crap and wish that people would help you more, because even though you look fine, you’re not. And then go on a rant about how hard life is.

b. Mumble something about how you are surviving and taking things day by day

c. Lie straight out and say “I’m great!”

I’m having a hard time with this one. How I answer the question depends on the person. Some people I know are just using “how are you” as a greeting, and I know they don’t actually want an honest answer. But some people really are sincere, and I have a hard time answering their questions. It’s hard to be honest and to not come off whinny and annoying at the same time.  I want to stay positive and most of the time I do, but sometimes things suck, because illness sucks, and it is really hard to pretend things don’t suck. Anyone have suggestions?

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2 thoughts on “Answering the question “How are you feeling?”

  1. When its someone in your family, choose option A followed with "and you can help me by….." 🙂 Because we love you shelley! And I don't always know how to help =[

  2. YOU HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD with this one SHELL! I have difficulty deciding which option to pick too! My newest response is: "I am keeping my head above water–." Then I add one of the following phrases "Most days" "some days" or "I'm trying to keep my head above water and once in awhile it works."
    That way people can either 1)turn, run, and hide from me the rest of their lives 2) murmur "how nice" and then end our conversation 3) look concerned and say, "How can I help?" or "tell me more."

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