Letting people have it

I should start this by saying I spent all four years of college working at the front desk of hotel. I have been yelled at more times than I can count, and 99% of the time it wasn’t my fault. I hated dealing with stupid people so much that I took another job shelving books at the campus library so I could be away from people (it turned out I like nice people and interaction, so that job didn’t last long). So I have strict rules on people who I can yell at:

1. My health insurance company
2. Salesmen who won’t go away after I politely say No thank you
3. The clerks at the G county courthouse who keep sending me jury summons even though I don’t live in G county. I have pointed out that a simple google maps search of my address will prove I don’t live in that county, not to mention my property tax records that are in another county. 
4. People who are mean to other people who can’t (or won’t) defend themselves
And that’s about it. Even if I am treated badly by someone who is supposed to be serving me, I do not get rude or snippy, most likely they are just having a bad day and/or it isn’t their fault.
So, to the story. I was on an errand when I spotted a new to the area used kids clothing store. I was driving right by it, so I thought I’d stop and pick up a few clothing items for my kids. The sign on the window clearly said open, so I naturally assumed the store was open. I walk in and the clerk says “what are you here for?” My response was a somewhat bewildered, “to buy clothes?” The clerk proceeded to inform me quite rudely that they were not open. I pointed out the open sign on the window and asked why they had it up and the door was unlocked if they were not actually open. She tells me that they are only open to people selling things, not buying. By this time I was peeved, all I wanted to do was walk in the store and by a few things, I didn’t sign up for someone being rude to me. So, I broke my hard and fast rules, and loudly suggested that if they were not actually open they should not be stupid enough to put up an open sign. I stomped out.
So I have been reduced to yelling at innocent people, stupid people, but not really worthy of my rage. I let myself get too tired and too worn down before I went shopping, not a good idea. I thought about going back to apologize, but, well, I didn’t, I have no excuse. From now I on I am going to make sure that I do not wait to do errands until late at night after a long day, and will try harder to stick to my rule. 
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3 thoughts on “Letting people have it

  1. Hi Shelley! You are too funny, girl. I have done the same darned thing and every time I resolve to do it differently. The whole problem at the root of "going off" on other people is that we don't tell it like it is all of the time. Then it all builds up and comes out when we least expect it. My resolve is to deal with my feelings at the time and not bottle them up. That way I'm in better control all the time. Some people call me direct or blunt, but I don't get caught off guard by my own behavior so much. Isn't it great to be human??!! Blessings to you, Valda

  2. This is so me, especially if they actually said open and then didn't want your business. That seems a little counter-intuitive and just plain bizarre to me!

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