Things have been going to crap lately. Not for me especially, I’m pretty stable at this point (minus the kidney stones that’s just something small my body likes to throw at me to keep me on my toes ) but for other people. It seems like everyone I know is getting hit with something whether it’s illness, unemployment, marriage issues, death, disabilities, or difficult children. As I thought about the adversity my friends and family have been facing I was reminded of my motto when things were at their worst, “I can do hard things.”
I’ve changed in a lot of ways since I became sick. This is a phrase that I live by now. When things get really really tough I think to myself “I CAN do hard things.” It reminds me that I am strong and capable. Sure I could choose to give up and refuse to go on living my life, but I choose to be strong.
Before I got sick I thought “hard things” were the heater breaking or friends being unkind. Those things can be hard, but I’ve learned to roll with the punches a bit better and not sweat over the small stuff. This is an unexpected blessing of chronic illness, you learn what is truly important. What is truly important to me is my family and friends.
The other day when I was feeling terrible and my husband was off helping someone else with their problems (he’s a volunteer leader at our church so he spends a lot of time visiting with people and helping them if they are in need of anything) I was feeling pretty selfish, I needed him to be home, not off helping someone else. Then I felt bad for being selfish and for wishing that I didn’t have to deal with my terror of a child by myself (seriously, he pulled the phone jack off the wall and stripped the wires, we were lucky he didn’t set the house on fire). So I decided I needed to fix my horrible attitude and I reminded myself that I CAN do hard things if I need to. I have been blessed in so many ways, I need to focus on that instead of thinking “poor me, my life is so hard.” People ask me how I can possibly deal with things, and this is really how I deal because it works for me.
* This is a repost but with updates because life has been crazy, see original post here