I was reading about radical self respect in regards to feminism when I realized that is was a concept that I really needed to implement in the rest of my life. So I hereby give myself permission to apply radical self respect with regards to my chronic illness.
This is what my radical self respect looks like:
– It is not my job to prove my chronic illness to others. They can believe me or not believe me, it’s not my problem.
– I will not hide my symptoms in public. I will no longer take off my arthritis gloves when I leave my house. If my hands are hurting I’m going to wear them even though it’s not fashionable.
– I accept myself and my body for who I am. I do not accept that I am broken or somehow less because of my illness.
– I will not accept the restrictive box that other people try put me in.
– I will not feel guilty for failing to meet others expectations.
– I deserve to be loved and appreciated for who I am and not what others want me to be.
– I will not hide the parts of my illness that make people feel uncomfortable.
– I refuse to feel inferior when doctors/pharmacists/nurses/a** holes belittle my pain.
– I will not let others define what God has in store for me. I abide by my God alone.
– I will put myself, my family, and my friends (in that order) at the top of my priority list. Anything else is at the mercy of whether or not I have the energy.
– I will say no when I cannot do something and will not be talked into saying yes out of guilt (I’m terrible at this one, but NO MORE will I be guilted into things against my best interest).
– I will take medication when I need it. Other people’s opinions be damned.
– If there is a toxic person in my life, radical self respect means that they are gone.
What does your radical self respect look like?