Having a positive outlook will not cure your chronic pain, that's toxic positivity. At best, it will help you to survive your pain, at worst it will put you into denial about your situation and keep you from getting appropriate treatment. 

How chronic pain is brushed away by toxic positivity

Toxic positivity is now the premier coping mechanism touted for dealing with chronic pain. Doctors have decided that pain is all in the attitude, and if someone is in pain, they’re not being optimistic enough. This has horrifying results for people in pain whose doctors are blaming them for their own suffering, and telling them…Continue reading How chronic pain is brushed away by toxic positivity

what it's really like to be a parent with chronic illness

What it’s really like to be a parent with chronic illness

Parenting with chronic illness is hard, and it’s not something we talk about very often. No one teaches us how to let go guilt, maintain boundaries, or how to interact with our kids while preserving our health. So here’s a few things I’ve learned along the way. 1. Let go of the guilt We all…Continue reading What it’s really like to be a parent with chronic illness

Pain Warriors is a documentary that tackles the other side of the opioid crisis ~  that of under-treated pain patients and the slow death of compassion that surrounds them.

Pain Warriors Documentary- The other side of the opioid crisis

Pain Warriors is a documentary that tackles the other side of the opioid crisis ~  that of under-treated pain patients and the slow death of compassion that surrounds them. As pain patients are losing access to opioid treatment there have been an increasing amount of suicides. Legitimate, responsible pain patients are losing access to opioids…Continue reading Pain Warriors Documentary- The other side of the opioid crisis

15 christmas gift ideas for friends and family with chronic pain

15 Christmas gift ideas for friends and family with chronic pain

It’s that time again, time to pull out the Christmas gift list for chronic pain. The following post contains affiliate links, please see my disclosure policy for more details. Budget Freezer meal Cooking is one of the hardest things to keep up with when you live with chronic pain. There’s no better gift than a…Continue reading 15 Christmas gift ideas for friends and family with chronic pain

10 things I’ve learned through my invisible illness

1. You never know what a person is really going through when they have an invisible illness I am very good at putting on a front. I am the epitome of the “fake it till you make it” principle. On a normal day I might look a little tired, and be a little quiet but…Continue reading 10 things I’ve learned through my invisible illness

the uncomfortable truths about living with chronic illness

The uncomfortable truths about chronic illness

What’s it really like being sick? It’s lonely. There is a barrier between you and most healthy people. Healthy people want healthy friends. They want friends they can regularly rely on. They want friends who’s lives are not regulated by pain, medication, exhaustion, sleep patterns, and doctors appointments. Very few people can see past these…Continue reading The uncomfortable truths about chronic illness

Why no one cares about mental illness

A few months ago when I wrote my post “Why no one cares about chronic illness” a friend mentioned to me that I was right in calling out chronic illness, but that mental illness was something that people care about even less and I think she was right. There is a stigma on chronic illness,…Continue reading Why no one cares about mental illness

I’m jealous of you

If you wake up feeling rested… I’m jealous of you If you can run without being bedridden the next day… I’m jealous of you If you can go to the doctor and not be accused of bring crazy… I’m jealous of you If you can hold a job… I’m jealous of you If you can…Continue reading I’m jealous of you

My story

I realized today that I had never recorded my whole chronic illness story. It’s very lengthy because I didn’t want to forget anything. My story began about 3 years ago right after the birth of my son. Right after his birth I was feeling great-despite having had a c-section. I had been so sick during…Continue reading My story

About me

I am a newly diagnosed fibromyalgia patient. As soon as I was diagnosed I started doing research on how to live with fibromyalgia. I’m read lots of books and read extensively on the internet, but through all my research I haven’t seen much on living with fibromyalgia and being a mom. It seems like every…Continue reading About me