Today’s Wego health topic: Write about the unexpected blessings of your condition or how being a patient has changed you.
I’ve changed in a lot of ways since I became sick. One of my favorite motto’s that has kept me going through all this is “I can do hard things.” I don’t know where I first heard this phrase, so if you know who it belongs to let me know. This is a phrase that I live by now, when things get really really tough I think to myself “I CAN do hard things.” It sounds somewhat corny, but I swear it helps me and encourages me to go on.
Before I got sick I thought “hard things” were things like financial stress, hurt feelings, everything I own breaking at the same time, friends who have moved on etc. Those things were hard for me at the time, but being sick has changed me, I no longer consider those kind of problems to be “hard things.” I’ve learned to roll with the punches a bit better and not sweat over the small stuff. This is an unexpected blessing of chronic illness, you learn what is truly important. What is truly important to me is my family. As long as everyone is safe and healthy (except me, obviously) then I am happy. When I am at the end of my physical strength and still have loads of things I have to do, I remind myself that I can do it, I can do hard things.
The other day when I was feeling terrible and my husband was off helping someone else with their problems (he’s a volunteer leader at our church so he spends a lot of time visiting with people and helping them if they are in need of anything) I was feeling pretty selfish, I needed him to be home, not off helping someone else. Then I felt bad for being selfish and for wishing that I didn’t have to deal with my terror of a 2 year old by myself (seriously, he pulled the phone jack off the wall and stripped the wires, we were lucky he didn’t set the house on fire). So I decided I needed to fix my horrible attitude and I reminded myself that I CAN do hard things if I need to. I have been blessed in so many ways, I need to focus on that instead of thinking “poor me, my life is so hard.”
It all sounds somewhat lame, but hey, we all have our coping mechanisms!