The ultimate gift guide for mothers with chronic illness

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Mother’s day is coming up in a few weeks and full disclosure, I hate it. My husband and children typically cook up a good breakfast, but more often than not I end up having to clean up the giant mess they made which makes me dwell on the crap shoot that is motherhood. I’m not an idealist, I always knew that parenthood would be hard, but no one told me how uncertain and vulnerable I’d feel on Mother’s Day  year after year. Inevitably as I scrub the dirty dishes I end up feeling like a failure I think about how I wanted to be a better parent and how I always said I’d never yell at my kids (oh the idealism of youth). I also think about how chronic illness has made me into a different parent than I thought I would be. I resolve to do better and not have any regrets the next year, but that never works.

I used to think I was alone in my hatred of Mother’s Day, but the more women I talk to the more I hear that my feelings are pretty typical and that’s not just with mothers who have chronic illness. So with that delightful introduction about Mother’s Day I’ve put together a list of ways that you can make Mother’s Day just a little bit special for the Mother with chronic illness in your life.

Budget items

  1. Spoonie Necklace

This necklace along with many other spoonie items on Etsy may be just the thing.

2. Empathy Cards

These cards are hilarious and on point. They nail what it’s like to live with chronic illness. card





3. Book: How to be a mom with chronic illness

This book is a survival guide for Moms with chronic illness

4. Hot/cold pack

These packs can either be heated up in the microwave or cooled in the freezer depending on what type of pain you have.

5. Lounge wear

When you have a chronic illness comfort is very important. Many people deal with chronic pain, some people have sensitive skin, some people just can’t stand anything else that is uncomfortable on top of what they already deal with. This is why leggings are the best creation ever.




Splurge items

6. Internet Subscriptions

Chronic illness means staying home a lot which can be both boring and isolating and so many people with chronic illness use distractions.  Netflix, Audible, and Hulu subscriptions can be a lifesaver.

7. Heated blanket

If you don’t live on the sun like I do (aka Texas), this electronic blanket would be amazing. People with chronic illness often have a hard time getting warm, and an electric blanket is the perfect fix.

8. Roomba

This is a significant investment, but it’s so worth it. When you have a chronic illness cleaning is a never ending nightmare and a roomba can lighten that load.  Vacuuming doesn’t seem like a lot of work until you have a chronic illness and that vacuum weighs more than a boulder. There’s something to be said for being able to click a button and then have the vacuuming taken care of.

9. Gift certificate for a massage

There’s nothing more relaxing than a good massage, but it’s something many mothers have a hard time buying for themselves.

10. Chronic illness subscription box

This would be a gift that kept on giving for as long as you want. There are several different ones out there such as ChronicAlly Box and Spoonie Essentials Box.


Of course gifts are not what makes Mother’s day even though it’s nice to get new things. What makes Mother’s Day is appreciation and love.

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4 thoughts on “The ultimate gift guide for mothers with chronic illness

  1. Shelley,
    You hit the nail on the head here!
    I am reblogging posts on my blog for Fibro Awareness this month. I have chosen this post for tomorrow. I hope this is okay. Also, would like to use your photo with photo credit to you, of course.

    1. As long as you include credit, prominently link back to my site, and don’t post the whole thing I would love it if you would share!

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